Overwhelm & a Sponge February 11th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

spongeLately, in my coaching practice, I’ve heard many clients talk about feeling overwhelmed.  They believe it’s from their current life circumstances, or from the amount of ideas that are coming into them.  Oftentimes, when you open yourself to the truth that all things are possible, yes even for you, the flood gates seem to open.  When this happens, it all appears chaotic or too much to deal with.

So, what can you do about it?  First, recognize that overwhelm is a concept.  Granted, a concept that people have bought into for a long time but one that often trips them up.  For some people this concept doesn’t even exist in their lives.  Secondly, that ‘too much’ feeling is not coming from the circumstances or ideas.  It’s coming from the volume of mental chatter you have around what you’re seeing or the ideas you’re receiving.  For instance, a new inspiration comes in, and it’s often followed, by the mind, offering a big laundry list of reality questions such as how, why, when, etc.  Your head space starts filling up?  This marathon of examination fills your head with a sense of it’s all too much.  Hopefully, at this point, you’re seeing it’s not what’s happening in your life that’s too much.  It’s what you’re making up about what’s happening in your life that’s creating this saturated feeling.

I feel very confident that the intelligence that brought you these situations or new ideas will bring you the how, why, when, and what to do about it.  There’s no need to fill your head with logistical data that hasn’t arrived yet.  What to do instead?  In order for the saturated sponge to do what it does best, you have to lessen the amount of liquid in it.  This allows space for the sponge to operate more effectively.

This is exactly what I invite you to do.  I invite you to empty your mind of all that busyness.  When more space is available inside you, you will operated more effectively.  You will have space available to receive, hear, or notice the next piece this same intelligence is sending your way.   Take a walk, tear paper, collage, watch a movie, listen to music, paint, or soak in the tub. You pick what does it for you.  Then relax.  You’re never given a situation without the information to execute your ideas.  It’s that simple.  It’s that easy.

LOVE & Differences February 10th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

HiResIt’s that time again!  It’s time to get silly about LOVE and all the sweetness that surrounds it.

Last week I had the opportunity to spend 5 days facilitating an Intuitive Painting intensive.  It was pure delight to see how a group of strangers transform over a matter of days into a loving and supportive community.  It had nothing to do with common similarities, all were unique in their own special way.  The one commonality was a shared experience.

This Valentine’s Day I invite you to consider this……Every person you encounter is sharing something with you.  The shared experience of navigating life.  While the packaging may look different, we are all swimming in the same soup.  When you’re convinced their ‘difference’ is a problem, I invite you to lean in and offer something different than your normal response.  You might have a very different experience that creates connection instead of distance.

This video is such an amazing example of LOVE through the differences.  Enjoy!

Chris and his Dad

For the New Year….don’t take ‘it’ with you. January 4th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

She Let Go {A Poem by Saffire Rose}

letitgoShe let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go. She let go of the fear.  She let go of the judgments.  She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.  She let go of the committee of indecision within her.  She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go. She didn’t ask anyone for advice.  She didn’t read a book on how to let go.  She didn’t search the scriptures.  She just let go.  She let go of all of the memories that held her back.  She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.  She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right. She didn’t promise to let go.  She didn’t journal about it.  She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.  She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.  She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.  She just let go. She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.  She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.  She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.  She didn’t call the prayer line.  She didn’t utter one word.  She just let go. No one was around when it happened.  There was no applause or congratulations.  No one thanked her or praised her.  No one noticed a thing.  Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go. There was no effort.  There was no struggle.  It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.  It was what it was, and it is just that. In the space of letting go, she let it all be.  A small smile came over her face.  A light breeze blew through her.  And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.

2016-Kurt Vonnegut and a Big Bang Beginning! December 30th, 2015 by Cherie Ray

kurt2016 is here!  How did that happen?  I’ve been conducting a very unscientific survey with people from ages 7 to 97 years of age.  Asking if 2015 seemed to pass super quickly.  The answer has been YES from every person asked.

With the welcoming in of a new year, how do you want to spend 2016?   I invite you to engage with life at the most natural level.  By creating.  Creating brings NEW into your world.  It brings surprises and gifts that you didn’t know you possessed.   It’s an invitation to dance with potential and possibility with nothing to loose!

This wonderful video, Make Your Soul Grow, “A letter from Kurt Vonnegut to Xavier High School, read by Ian McKellen” says it all!



Wishing you a glorious and soul-filled 2016!


You weren’t here when you were there….. July 27th, 2015 by Cherie Ray

rearDo you spend too much time looking in your rear view mirror?  The rear view mirror I’m referring to is not the one in your car, but the one that lives in your head.  It’s very common, during coaching conversations, to hear clients speak of doubts or regrets they carry about their lives.  There are certain hot-topics they repeatedly review, and they continuously analyze the actions they took or decisions they made.  This usually occurs when they’re in a low mood.  Most of the time, they have regrets or doubts about the way they acted during these times.  Did they do the right thing? Could they have done it differently?  Why didn’t I show up differently than I did?  Did I make a big mistake? 

Just typing these words gives me a real feel for how busy our minds can get about things that are long since passed.  Whew!  No wonder why we feel fatigued!

Here’s the good news.  Let yourself off the hook, now, for how you showed up, then.  The truth of the matter is, you did the best you could possibly do with the information and state-of-mind that you had at that moment.  And it couldn’t have been any different.  WHY?  Because it happened the way it happened.  If it were meant to be different, it would have been different.  The suffering comes when we see yesterday’s news with today’s eyes.  Somehow, with today’s eyes, it seems so clear how we should have been and what we should have done.  Guess what?  Human beings are continuously growing and evolving.  It’s our life experiences that support this evolution.  At any moment, we have the opportunity to have a shift in consciousness and see possibilities that we didn’t see before.  We can’t do anything to make the shift happen.  It’s part of the intelligent system behind life that works on our behalf.  What we can do is let ourselves off the hook for being human and relax.  It’s the best we can possibly do for ourselves.

It’s Feeling Not a Thing May 24th, 2015 by Cherie Ray

redshoesIt’s a feeling not a thing.  The great job, the loving partner, the sanctuary home, like-minded friends, red-soled shoes, sassy car, the robust bank balance, the newest gadget, the paradise vacation, you can name it but these aren’t it.  In our culture, it’s suggested that things will bring us the experience we most seek in life.  The lovely goodies do bring a buzz and momentary joy but does it last? 

If you’ll look beneath your wish list and ask yourself, “what do I believe this will bring me?” that’s where the gold nugget exists.  If it’s the sassy car, maybe you think it will show the world that you’re successful.  Maybe the great job suggests you really are smart.  Maybe the loving partner proves you are worthy and loveable.  Maybe the abundant bank balance will help you feel secure.  This all makes sense when you believe your experience is a direct result of what’s going on outside of you.

While it makes sense from what we’ve been taught, it’s not true.  Bummer, huh?  The good news is, your most desired experiences are generated from inside you the bestrather than from outside of you.  While all of the goodies of life are fun and enjoyable, the distinction is to know your most desired experiences are not dependent on whether your wish-list of goodies appear in your life or not.  Those desired experiences are available to you now, right where you are.  They live in your current state-of-mind.  You have many experiences to choose from.  Which one do you want to take off the shelf today and take for a test drive?

Let me know what you choose?  I’d love to hear from you!

The Last to Board the Soul Train February 4th, 2015 by Cherie Ray

Hello Creatives,

Are you in the midst of a transition or longing to take a leap of faith?  Oftentimes, our inspirations are first met with ‘resistance thinking’ pushing back.  This thinking offers up all the reasons why stepping forward is a scary event; suggesting imaginary booga-booga consequences if you move in your inspired direction.

Recently I heard Robert Holden say these words, “The ego is never ready to do the Soul’s work.”  When I heard him say this, it resonated with me.

A few weeks later, as I was taking a walk, I received an insight that tweeked what I’d originally heard.  It showed up like this,

“The ego is never ready to follow the Soul’s lead.”  This felt like a dead-ringer for where I was at the moment.  This wisdom continues to hang-out with me.

If you’re playing with a decision to move on an inspiration, consider this insight.  I believe a helpful consideration in moving forward is realizing, the ego may be the last part of you to board the train.

Let me know what you think……




I would love to hear from you about your inspirations and moving with them!

Inviting New to YOU! January 22nd, 2015 by Cherie Ray

ensembleHello Creatives,

 Good morning!  All week I’ve been drawn to invite you to play more with your innate creativity.  When I’m drawn to do something, I follow that inclination because I know; it’s the lead I want to follow. 

 Innate Creativity is the energy that animates your being-ness.  All of that sounds pretty woo-woo but what I want to make very clear, is you’re naturally creative and that’s the way we’re built.  The only thing that separates you from this flow are thoughts to the contrary.

 What I’m drawn to invite you to do, is to commit to two things through the end of February.  First, I just want you to notice how often you say NO to yourself.  When ideas or inspirations come up, notice if you receive them with open arms or default to why it’s not possible for you. 

Secondly, I invite you to commit to creating something new every day.  It doesn’t matter what you create.  You may create a new ensemble from what you already have in your closet, you may create a sandwich, you may create a drawing, a luncheon event with someone new, etc.  Who knows?  Create anything from beginning to end once a day.sandwich

Why commit to creating something new each day?  To become very familiar with how easy it is.  Opening the gates and being more receptive to this current of innate creativity will bring you aliveness, new ideas, and a wonderful sense of play.  What have you got to lose?

Warmest wishes,


Happy New Year! January 1st, 2015 by Cherie Ray

??????????????????????????????It’s here!  Another year has come and gone and we are on the verge of launching 2015?

In welcoming a new year, you have an opportunity to review your seating arrangement in the world, to check-in on your orientation. What direction are you facing?

 Recently, I heard Sue Monk Kidd, the author of one of my favorite books, The Secret Life of Bees, say that, what you perceive to be true will be your experience in life. This woke something up in me as I was making a list of requests and intentions and prayers for my new year.

I was sitting in the garden with my yellow legal pad and favorite pen and here’s my list of what I choose to orient my life to in 2015:

  • LOVE  – How can I see, live, give, experience it in a bigger way?
  • Adventure – How can I experience adventure like never before.
  • Openness – How can I stay fresh-minded…to know nothing for sure.
  • Letting my heart lead (even when my mind is sure it knows what’s the best direction).

The next step?  Let it go.  Letting my perceptions go about how and what this will look like in my life lets the Truth in.  I also made the request to see my perceptions of fear, sooner rather than later.  Fear is a part of life but it’s not permanent and doesn’t need to be taken so seriously.

The invitation to orient your life to what matters most to you is always available. If your mind pulls you in the direction of fear or limitation, I invite you to let LOVE weigh heavier on the needle of your compass for 2015. Where there’s LOVE, there’s magic, mystery and a large dose of compassion.  I invite you to take a few minutes to refresh your list of what you want to see in life from where you’re sitting. If your list warms and opens your heart to possibility, I feel you’re looking in the direction of LOVE.

Thank you very much for sharing your lives with me. I look forward to seeing you live your dreams in 2015!

Moving through moods. We all have’em. April 1st, 2014 by Cherie Ray

Dear Friends.

In many coaching sessions, clients are questioning what happened or what they did to cause someone to over react. At times like these, take a breath and connect to the truth that their reaction is not about you. Let them own their own reaction by not assuming you did something wrong or that there’s something wrong with you.

In the Human Beings Owner’s Manual that we never received, it informs us that everyone comes in and out of periods of secure thinking and insecure thinking (moods). When we bump into someone who is in a low mood, reactions happen. The same situation can occur when someone is feeling very secure and a completely different reaction will appear. A client recently transcribed a portion of our conversation. Hopefully, this will offer further explanation:

“Every human being has insecure thoughts and will see them as real, and will feel them as if they are occurring. Our emotional states will reflect the feeling and our behavior will follow.”

“We can become aware of our own insecure thoughts and realize that the feelings, which are based on those thoughts, are 100% temporary! We can chose not believe our insecure thoughts and instead unhook from anything that is not occurring in this present moment.”

“The people that are around us carry their own bag of thoughts which they perceive as real. But we must reach the point in our own evolution where we choose not to be concerned with the mental wranglings of others.”

When we realize that everyone is moving through their own thinking, we can connect with more compassion for ourselves and for others. When we hold compassion and understanding, we are in direct connection to possibilities not seen before.  P.S.  Give yourself permission to not make decisions when you are in a low mood.  The good mood will arrive soon and that’s when you want to make decisions.

Relax, spring is arriving and every moment is full of pure potential.