Where is Aliveness? October 17th, 2017 by Cherie Ray

It’s fall!  It was very exciting to step outside this morning and feel a hint of fall.  With the change of weather it occurred to me how that seems to stimulate an awakeness to life.  All of a sudden any feeling of stuckness goes to the back and aliveness comes to the fore front.  Aliveness is a topic that fascinates me and seems to show up in the majority of my coaching client’s desires for seeking support.

 

My curiosity about about aliveness brings me many insights.  Why?  Because I’m looking in the direction to see more.  When we give our mind an assignment it seems to put in the coordinates, like GPS, and begins to serve up fresh information.

 

What has appeared true for me recently is that aliveness exists in engaging in life at the speed of life.  Not living in my thinking about living, but about showing up in life and engaging with what’s next for me to do.  It fascinates me on how our thinking can stall us from living.  This may be common in most human beings but it’s not helpful.  My invitation to you is to engage, regardless of what seems to be stopping you.  ENGAGE!  Let it be simple. Let it be easy.  The engaging will bring a new perspective, not what’s accomplished and acceptable to the mind. I promise.  It’s in the engaging that aliveness and fresh perspective appears.

Where Limitation Lives…. October 5th, 2017 by Cherie Ray

Have you ever wondered where limitation exists in your life?  This has became so obvious to me lateley that I felt the need to share.
Recently, I have been surprised by the notion of just showing up in life regardless of my preferences and perceived capabilities.  It occurred to me, to move with the flow of life and to

not micro manage its unfoldment.  Participating in life this way has found me in situations I would never have chosen, even avoided, because I knew I ‘didn’t have it in me’. What I’m seeing is that I have no clue what I’m capable of. Secondly, showing up in situations I would have avoided at all costs has brought opportunities for a very rich feeling. What I’m trying to explain is that I see how my thinking has held a formula for meaningful experiences, what I was capable of, and where good feelings come from. In this formula there was a correlation between ‘pleasant’ and my desired good feeling. I’m surprised how an unexperienced rich feeling can come from engaging in life, not the situations I prefer.  It has also become screamingly apparent that any notion of who or what I am and limitations in my life only exist in my mind.

 

Give ‘moving with life with what’s being offered’ a try.  I would love to hear about your experience.

Squirrels-Living Discouragement Proof July 18th, 2017 by Cherie Ray

squirrel3Hello Friends,

On Saturday, I was sitting at my computer and something caught my eye.  As I looked up, I saw my bird feeder swinging largely from left to right.

At first I thought someone had walked by and pushed it because it was swaying so big.  As I looked closer, I saw a squirrel working its way up the trunk, getting in position to take another giant leap at the feeder.  With the focus and precision o

f Evel Knievel, the squirrel poised itself and took the leap of faith, again.  Still no success.  But this isn’t the e

nd of the story.  With no hesitation the squirrel goes into action again.

As she maneuvered her path back up the tree, it occurred to me that there is one universally specificdetail that separates squirrels from humans when living life.  This is the notion of discouragement.  They don’t have it, humans do.

Maybe you don’t have those moments of wondering, how life got to look this way, and how people aren’t supposed to be that way, and that was not supposed to go that way, yada yada ya.

It occurred to me that if I didn’t entertain what passed through my mind, in those moments of disbelief, much less ruminate on them, discouragementouldn’t exist and neither would my suffering about how things appear!

In an instant, two things became clear.  If I was less influenced by what charged through my mind in times of insecurity, I would have more fun, live with more inspiration, and try everything, without hesitation.

I hope to see you soon!

Smiles,

Cherie

 

P.S.  She eventually made it and enjoyed her lunch!

Consistently Buying a Ticket on the Train to Crazy Town February 28th, 2017 by Cherie Ray

Where do you go when you’re not here in the moment?
I don’t know about you but I find myself in Crazy Town.  I named the place where I go when I’m living from my thinking and not in the moment, Crazy Town.  I find myself there much more than I would like to.  It appears to me to be universally natural for human beings to not be living in their life, in real time, but in their perception of life as they’re seeing it in the moment.  We seem to be more familiar with the limited nature of life, as seen through our mind’s eye, than the true limitless nature of life’s possibilities.
I noticed how frequently I over think the most benign actions in life.  Recently, I saw the gap between responding in the moment and when I think I should respond. I noticed this on something as simple as returning a phone call.  Instead of picking up the phone to return a call, I’d find myself considering best time to call, etc., etc., etc., ! It wore me out reflecting on the amount of energy I used responding to the minutia of life. Now I’m practicing responding in the moment, with less considering, and my life feels lighter just by doing this one simple thing.
This is what looks true for me:
  1. Leaving the moment and living from my thinking is universal to all human beings.
  2. We’re living from our thinking more than we’re responding to life as it’s happening in the moment.
  3. The stuff my mind makes up in the moment is very compelling but not always true about this moment in time.
  4. The stuff our minds make up, appears to have the flavor, texture, and feeling of being real and true.  How can something feel so spot-on be so inaccurate?
  5.  When I’m outside the moment and in my thinking, it’s like perusing Netflix.  It can be a wild ride.  There’s horror, adventure, romance, comedy, and drama.  When I’m in the moment I just do the next thing there is to do. Whether it’s brushing my teeth, taking a step, or making a call.

Living life in real time brings a natural sense of lightness, ease, and hopefulness.  Fortunately, I’m laughing at my humanness more and more.  I’m noticing how often I’m not in the moment and how consistently I’m buying a ticket on the train to Crazy Town.

I would love to hear if any of this is true for you!

Dating with Nothing on It! January 30th, 2017 by Cherie Ray

Hello Friends!
datingFor full disclosure, I’m writing this as an observer while learning so much about my experience of life.  I’ll do my best to make this brief.
I have a friend who is back in the dating scene.  One night, she finds herself having a great, more than great…a fabulous time, having dinner with a new friend.  As the evening progressed he says he’s never had such a great time on a date.  (Zoom in)  She hears this and freaks out!  A date?  I thought I was having dinner with a friend?  She quickly observes her own reaction.  She realizes if she had known this was going to be a date, she would have been incredibly nervous!  Since she didn’t think of this outing as a date, she was relaxed and open with no expectations about who she should be and who he should be.  She was present in the moment having an effortless amazing time!
What’s up with that?  What I saw about her experience brought me to consider how much awe and ease could be in my world if I didn’t have a notion about what to expect from life, moment-to-moment.  Relationships, friendships, career, business, new inspirations, and life would be experienced from an uncontaminated place.  I’m curious about how much life and connection I would feel without my filters of expectation and life experience.  Each moment is brand new, created in the moment, with no need to create it in my mind first.  I’m realizing this is where awe and genius live.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this,  Let’s keep the conversation going.
Warmest wishes,
Cherie
P.S. If you’re looking for some fun this weekend, come over and explore Intuitive Painting on Saturday.  We have a fun community of explorers!

What excites you about travel? April 18th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

travelRecently, I had the opportunity to ask this question to a group of intuitive painters who were discussing their upcoming travel plans.  One person was talking about visiting Egypt, another about her plans to see Japan, and another about her spring break in Portland.  As the conversation unfolded, it occurred to me to ask, what excites you about travel?  They looked at me with heads tilted and eyes squinted as if I were clueless.  It was as if I had asked a question with the most obvious of answers.  Here’s what they said:  to see something they’ve never seen before, to have new experiences, to explore, to have more adventures, and to be surprised. From where I sat, all of these answers pointed to the same thing, a journey into the unknown.

As I listened to their answers it occurred to me how funny it is that our minds can hold the same idea in two distinctly different ways. When anticipating the unknown through travel, the departure date can’t get here soon enough.  When anticipating the unknown through creating, we recoil as if there’s a reason to run.  As B.B. King once sang, the thrill is gone!   In both situations we’re still stepping into the unknown.  Maybe what’s really on offer here, is to not take our state of mind as a barometer of what’s real.  It’s a fickle-pickle that is inconsistent, fleeting, and illusory.  It may carry the tone of an expert but that’s not a reason to take it seriously.  Like the weather in Texas, it will soon change.

If you want to explore a different side to the unknown there’s no need to travel 6,000 miles.  Those same goodies are waiting for you on the blank page.  Creativity invites you into the adventure of seeing something new, exploring, having adventures, and being surprised.  One of the best perks offered through creating is the opportunity to get very comfortable with stepping into the unknown.  The unknown is never as scary as it once appeared.  You transform your experience of the unknown into one of curiosity and wonder.  Much like travel, the more you show up, the more is revealed and experienced.

Overwhelm & a Sponge February 11th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

spongeLately, in my coaching practice, I’ve heard many clients talk about feeling overwhelmed.  They believe it’s from their current life circumstances, or from the amount of ideas that are coming into them.  Oftentimes, when you open yourself to the truth that all things are possible, yes even for you, the flood gates seem to open.  When this happens, it all appears chaotic or too much to deal with.

So, what can you do about it?  First, recognize that overwhelm is a concept.  Granted, a concept that people have bought into for a long time but one that often trips them up.  For some people this concept doesn’t even exist in their lives.  Secondly, that ‘too much’ feeling is not coming from the circumstances or ideas.  It’s coming from the volume of mental chatter you have around what you’re seeing or the ideas you’re receiving.  For instance, a new inspiration comes in, and it’s often followed, by the mind, offering a big laundry list of reality questions such as how, why, when, etc.  Your head space starts filling up?  This marathon of examination fills your head with a sense of it’s all too much.  Hopefully, at this point, you’re seeing it’s not what’s happening in your life that’s too much.  It’s what you’re making up about what’s happening in your life that’s creating this saturated feeling.

I feel very confident that the intelligence that brought you these situations or new ideas will bring you the how, why, when, and what to do about it.  There’s no need to fill your head with logistical data that hasn’t arrived yet.  What to do instead?  In order for the saturated sponge to do what it does best, you have to lessen the amount of liquid in it.  This allows space for the sponge to operate more effectively.

This is exactly what I invite you to do.  I invite you to empty your mind of all that busyness.  When more space is available inside you, you will operated more effectively.  You will have space available to receive, hear, or notice the next piece this same intelligence is sending your way.   Take a walk, tear paper, collage, watch a movie, listen to music, paint, or soak in the tub. You pick what does it for you.  Then relax.  You’re never given a situation without the information to execute your ideas.  It’s that simple.  It’s that easy.

LOVE & Differences February 10th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

HiResIt’s that time again!  It’s time to get silly about LOVE and all the sweetness that surrounds it.

Last week I had the opportunity to spend 5 days facilitating an Intuitive Painting intensive.  It was pure delight to see how a group of strangers transform over a matter of days into a loving and supportive community.  It had nothing to do with common similarities, all were unique in their own special way.  The one commonality was a shared experience.

This Valentine’s Day I invite you to consider this……Every person you encounter is sharing something with you.  The shared experience of navigating life.  While the packaging may look different, we are all swimming in the same soup.  When you’re convinced their ‘difference’ is a problem, I invite you to lean in and offer something different than your normal response.  You might have a very different experience that creates connection instead of distance.

This video is such an amazing example of LOVE through the differences.  Enjoy!

Chris and his Dad

For the New Year….don’t take ‘it’ with you. January 4th, 2016 by Cherie Ray

She Let Go {A Poem by Saffire Rose}

letitgoShe let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go. She let go of the fear.  She let go of the judgments.  She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.  She let go of the committee of indecision within her.  She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go. She didn’t ask anyone for advice.  She didn’t read a book on how to let go.  She didn’t search the scriptures.  She just let go.  She let go of all of the memories that held her back.  She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.  She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right. She didn’t promise to let go.  She didn’t journal about it.  She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.  She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.  She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.  She just let go. She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.  She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.  She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.  She didn’t call the prayer line.  She didn’t utter one word.  She just let go. No one was around when it happened.  There was no applause or congratulations.  No one thanked her or praised her.  No one noticed a thing.  Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go. There was no effort.  There was no struggle.  It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.  It was what it was, and it is just that. In the space of letting go, she let it all be.  A small smile came over her face.  A light breeze blew through her.  And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.

2016-Kurt Vonnegut and a Big Bang Beginning! December 30th, 2015 by Cherie Ray

kurt2016 is here!  How did that happen?  I’ve been conducting a very unscientific survey with people from ages 7 to 97 years of age.  Asking if 2015 seemed to pass super quickly.  The answer has been YES from every person asked.

With the welcoming in of a new year, how do you want to spend 2016?   I invite you to engage with life at the most natural level.  By creating.  Creating brings NEW into your world.  It brings surprises and gifts that you didn’t know you possessed.   It’s an invitation to dance with potential and possibility with nothing to loose!

This wonderful video, Make Your Soul Grow, “A letter from Kurt Vonnegut to Xavier High School, read by Ian McKellen” says it all!

http://letterslive.com/letter/make-your-soul-grow/

Enjoy!

Wishing you a glorious and soul-filled 2016!

Cherie